The Not-So-Fluffy Truth About Connection in Leadership

May 2, 2025 | Leadership

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Let’s get one thing clear: building relationships at work is not fluff. It’s not extra. It’s not a “nice to have.” It’s the foundation of strong leadership.

  • People don’t follow titles – they follow people.  
  • People don’t open up to authority – they open up to trust.  
  • And trust is built, not declared.

At the core of great leadership is connection – real, human, meaningful connection.

It’s not about being best friends with everyone. It’s about being the kind of leader who sees people. Who shows up. Who puts in the time –  in small, intentional ways – to understand, support, and relate to others.

Because when trust is in place, everything becomes easier.

  • Hard conversations don’t feel like personal attacks.
  • Feedback doesn’t feel threatening.
  • Accountability doesn’t feel like punishment.

People feel safer, more seen, and more willing to show up – fully and honestly.

As Brené Brown reminds us,

“Trust is built in very small moments.”

It’s a stacking and layering of micro-interactions that compound over time.

So what does that actually look like?

  • Taking a few extra minutes in the morning to say hello and really mean it.
  • Attending company events – not because you have to, but because you want to show up for your team.
  • Learning facts about the people around you, and then remembering them.
  • Asking, “How was your vacation?” or “How did your daughter’s soccer tournament go?” and seeing the way their face lights up when they realize you paid attention.

These things may feel small – but they aren’t. They’re the bridge between “I work for you” and “I trust you.”

If you want to be a leader worth following, build those bridges.

Connection Requires Self-Awareness

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It’s not just about reaching out – it’s also about looking in.

Strong leaders are self-aware. They understand their impact. They tune into the energy they bring into a room. They don’t assume trust – they earn it, over and over again, through how they lead and how they relate.

Being self-aware means asking:

  • Do people feel safe coming to me with bad news?
  • Do I know what’s going on in my team’s lives outside of work?
  • Do I make space for real connection – or am I moving too fast to notice?

The Impact of Being Human

When leaders invest in relationships, everything changes:

  • Retention improves – because people don’t leave leaders they trust.
  • Morale shifts – because people feel seen, heard, and valued.
  • Collaboration grows – because connection fuels communication.

In other words: people want to work for someone who has their back. Someone who knows them, not just their job title.

So show up. Ask the question. Share the coffee. Make the time. Not just once – but often.

Because leadership isn’t about how much you know – it’s about how much you care. And people can feel the difference.

Want to lead with greater trust and connection to others?

At Upskill Consulting, we offer customized training and coaching to help leaders build trust and refine their leadership presence. Let’s work together to build stronger teams and more effective leaders.

Contact us today to learn more about our leadership programs and coaching support.

Sofia Arisheh
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